How To Handle Conflict

I used to love conflict. Back when I was angry all the time, I waited for someone to bait me just so I could release some of my frustration on them. Then I went through a season where I avoided conflict at all costs. You wanted to argue? Go for it, but I was definitely not going to argue back.

And now I have found myself in a healthier place. Not quite avoiding conflict but not leaping into it head first. Because the truth is conflict has the ability to grow us...if we let it.

When we do conflict God's way, it has the potential to bring forth so much fruit. When I have leaned into conflict authentically, in God's timing, with the goal of getting to a resolution, I have experienced deep intimacy. When I choose to see the plank in my own eye before pointing out the log in someone else's, I get a taste of the power of grace. When I decide to call someone up instead of calling them out, I get to see God's mercy. And when others do that for me? I am humbled beyond belief.

Conflict is not bad. Conflict, with the right heart, is good. So as you go into your week, don't shy away from hard conversations. Don't be afraid to pray and ask the Holy Spirit for the right words and timing to tell someone you love a hard truth. Ask God to open your ears to hear things you maybe didn't want to hear. And pray that God would give you solutions and resolutions to the problems you face.

As iron sharpens iron,
so one person sharpens another. - Proverbs 27:17

If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector. - Matthew 18:15-17

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. - Proverbs 15:1

love you,


Self Control- Fruit of the Spirit Devotional

A 5 day devotional created to help you cultivate self-control in your life!

This Devotional covers five areas:

  • Where to get Self-Control

  • How to Handle Temptation

  • Gaining Control of Your Thought Life

  • Making Good Choices

  • Controlling Your Speech

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