HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE 2018

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HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE 2018

I cannot believe it is already time to start Christmas shopping!! I am so excited to share with you my favorite things. Comment and let me know what you end up getting for yourself or a loved one!

Fre Skincare

This cruelty free vegan skin care line has drastically improved my skin! I use their products DAILY. My favorite thing they have is the DETOX ME Mask. This line is perfect for the girl who works out. Every product gently exfoliates AND hydrates. Use code FAITHFEAST on BLACKFRIDAY to get 50% off!

Chicago French Press Coffee

My favorite way to start my day is with Chicago French Press Coffee. Gift yourself or your favorite coffee drinker with some delicious flavored coffee in ANY grind. This coffee is great for anyone who is looking for a healthier option for their morning cup of Joe! Check out their Black Friday deals to snag some Holiday Flavors! Use Code FAITHFEAST!

Val Marie Paper Prayer Journals

Do not underestimate the power of a prayer journal. If you want to share with someone you love the beautiful gift of prayer- START HERE. They have a journal for just about everyone in your life. The beginner, the seasoned, the parent, the child, the man and more. They even have other tools and devotionals to help you grow in your faith in 2019. Shop SOON because they have some great Black Friday deals.

Wholeheartedly Devotional

truth be told, I am not a huge fan of singles content. That’s a blog post for another day. But THIS devotional is one I recommend to every single woman in my life. Natalie does such a great job of helping single women dive in and experience their single season FULLY and JOYFULLY. Grab this 21 day devotional for yourself or someone close to you of any age!

Shop Jackie Subscription Box

Know a lady looking to elevate her wardrobe?? Shop Jackie subscription boxes are a MUST. They select high end pieces specific to your style needs and ship it right to you. I have LOVED being styled by them for work and life. You can even do a one time box for $40 bucks!

BOOKS & BIBLE STUDIES

There are TOO many good reads and bible studies that I think would make phenomenal gifts this year. So…Just head over to my amazon affiliate page and scope out the goods. I personally love getting a new book under the tree so gift someone you love with a MUST read!

Classpass

YES. I put class pass on here! Don’t judge me. Sometimes all someone needs to stay consistent or get consistent is a gym membership. Class Pass is so fun because you can hop around to different types of studios and never get bored with your workouts. Treat someone to some health this Christmas, amen?!

I can’t wait to see what you end up getting this year for yourself or your loved ones. Please note that many of these links are affiliate links which simply means that when you use them, I get a percentage of the sales at no cost to you! HAPPY SHOPPING!

The beautiful planner was gifted to me by Faithful Moms. This planner is SO nice. It’s starts off with sections to help you define your purpose for the year. Then you set quarterly intentions, a verse for the month, a prayer list and more. THEN you’ve got a place for scripture notes, a memory verse, a spot fo ra testimony and even ample space for quiet time notes. On the weekly page there is plenty of room for the days to do’s and even a section for daily habits. This is one of the most thoughtful planners I have ever seen. I LOVE IT!! Grab yours for 10% off with code thefaithfeast until Tuesday December 4th. This gift is PERFECT for ANY woman in your life!

xo

Linds

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I Made A Mistake

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I Made A Mistake


I made a mistake and it was haunting me. About a year ago I was presented with an opportunity. It appeared to be the exact opportunity that I had prayed and fasted and cried out to God for. And it felt like it was put right in my lap. To be honest I was surprised. Shocked. It felt unexpected despite the fact that it had been constantly on my mind and a desire in my heart. And as I begin to step into this blessing that I believed was from God, I started to get nervous. Really really nervous. Was I ready for this? Could I actually handle it? Was I going to mess it all up? And the more nervous I got the more tense I became. I never got a chance to delight in the blessing because I was all too consumed with making sure I didn’t LOSE it. 



Have you ever done that? Maybe you played sports or love to watch them. If you do, you can always tell when a team goes from determined to win to afraid to lose. If you watch closely, you can pick up on this subtle mindset shift. Playing to win comes from a place of confidence. There is a certainty there that winning is possible and achievable. When a team shifts from trying to win to trying not to lose, they are playing from a place of fear. They often seem scrambled, less focused, and flustered. 



That was me. I went from excited to afraid. It was too good to be true.  Being myself as I stepped in to this blessing seemed a little risky. I had to be perfect in order to maintain it. The only way to win was to avoid losing at all costs. 


That mindset sent me into a downward spiral. A downward spiral that ended in this door to be closed. I couldn’t believe I had exactly what I wanted and then let it slip right through my fingers. I felt like a huge failure. How could I have messed this up when God put it right in my hands? All I had to do was…receive it. 


I spent the better part of the year disappointed in myself. Beating myself up for this stupid failure. My dumb mistakes. My wrong mindset. I spent a lot of time praying for healing, clarity and of course another shot.  I begged God to just open the door one more time. I wouldn’t mess it up. I could handle it…just give me one more shot. 


 And then God led me to the story of Joseph in the Bible but this time from a different perspective.


When Josephs brothers threw him into that pit, they made a huge mistake.  A mistake they thought resulted in his death. A mistake they could never take back. A mistake that shattered their father Jacobs heart. Some unfortunate circumstances lead them directly to the palace here Joseph was now living.  Long story short, Joseph ends up asking his brothers to bring their youngest brother before he helps them. In Josephs mind, they will have nothing to bring because HE is the youngest brother.  But little does he know…there is now a Benjamin in the picture. 



The brothers go back home and have to face their father Jacob. They tell Jacob that in order to get what they need to survive…they have to bring Benjamin, the youngest brother, back with them. Jacob, clearly, is like uh NO.  Last time you took my son…he disappeared forever.  But Judah begs and pleads for Jacob to allow them to take Benjamin. 


The brothers needed a second chance. They could never get back what they did to Joseph. They could never undo their mistake. But they COULD do the right thing with Benjamin. & if you keep reading you find that Jacob did eventually say yes. 


I read over this story again and again until finally I realized I was the brothers. I had mishandled something very precious to my father just like them. But Jacob, Just like our Father in heaven, was willing to give them another shot. And this time they were not the same. Some time had passed and they were now ready to handle the responsibility. They could handle it. 


We will make mistakes. We are going to royally screw up. I know I have before and I will again. But a second chance will come. It may take days  or months or it may take years. Another chance will come. It may not be when you thought or what you thought, but it will come. 


You are not your last mistake. You are not defined by your failures. You are defined by the promises of God. You got fresh mercy when you woke up this morning. You are wiser than you were when you messed up. Move forward in courage.  You are defined by the promises of God.  Your second chance is coming…and All of heaven is cheering you on. 

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All My Single Ladies

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All My Single Ladies

All My Single Ladies

By: Abbey V. McMillan

Long ago, on Facebook, as a single woman, I posted a comment about how I looked forward to the day I’d have my husband to love and lean on. At the time, my heart felt like it would burst because of how much I longed for the companionship of my husband. I was in my late 20’s at the time and I had never really dated.  (There was this guy in my youth group that held my hand for three weeks…but he would have dated a gnat…so it’s not worth counting.) One acquaintance, we will call her Rae, made a comment that I will never forget.  She stated I “shouldn’t have rose colored glasses when it came to marriage” and “it was no walk in the park.” If I were to be completely honest with you, I would admit I almost lost my Jesus for a second and really wanted to punch her square in the throat.  Instead, I just pointed out that she wouldn’t give it up if she had a choice so it couldn’t be all bad.  She agreed…and I felt vindicated!

The truth is I didn’t think I had any rose colored glasses regarding marriage.  My parents divorced my freshman year of college after being married for 20 years.  I saw the ugliness of marriage.  I thought that most of it was because Jesus wasn’t at the center of my parent’s relationship, but I knew it was difficult regardless.

Another truth: Rae wasn’t wrong.  Her approach and her wording were wrong. Fast forward to almost a decade later when I was walking in her shoes as a wife, I realized her heart was in the right place; I couldn’t see it before.  Her words just hurt and seemed unnecessary.  I learned later though that the message she was trying to impart to me was absolute truth.  I pray that as you read the remainder of the post that you know my heart is for you- in every season.

I have two disclaimers before I begin.  The first, you read above that I am married and some of you may be closing out your browsers because of it.  Remember when I said I never really dated?  My first real boyfriend didn’t come along until I was 31 years old. I met my husband when I was 33 years old and I became his bride just before my 36th birthday.  This coming February we will have been married for three years.  I share this to say, I was single for much longer than I have been un-single! Sometimes, although brief, I have to remind myself that I am not still one of you.  When I say my heart is for you…trust me…my heart is for you.

The second, I realize there are those of you that are absolutely ROCKING singleness; you totally have it all together, your eyes are on the Lord and you are SOLID! I prayed often to be you and, at times, I was you, though not for very long.  Truthfully, my contentment and focus on the Lord waxed and waned.  May this post, if nothing else, encourage and spur you onward!

Here are two things I’ve learned while being on the “other side” of singleness.

If I’d known then what I know now, I’d spend ZERO time pining and longing for my husband and would’ve set my sights on Him alone!  As a single woman, I would cling to Psalm 37:4 (NIV) “Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.”  I spent so much time focusing on the “desires of my heart” without realizing it, tried to figure out how to manipulate the “delighting in Him” so that I could get my desires fulfilled.  Maybe He wasn’t giving me my desires because I didn’t delight in Him in some particular way.  Ladies, there is so much goodness, SO MUCH GOODNESS in just delighting in Him!  Take some time to write that part of the verse down somewhere and keep it where you can see it.  Write Psalm 37:4, “Delight yourself in the Lord” and stop right there.  For most of us, I’m willing to bet, that is enough to keep us busy for eternity!  (Lord, may we delight in You for no other reason than the fact that You are delightful!)  He is prize enough.  The sooner we see that, the sooner we stop striving, the quicker contentment will find us.  If music speaks to your heart as it does mine, look up Natalie Grant, “More Than Anything.”

As a single woman I often felt that being married and having a loving, Godly husband would solve so many problems!  Car troubles?  Husbands can deal with that so you don’t have to.  Stinky trash?  Husbands can take it out so you don’t have to.  Feeling lonely?  Husbands can cuddle, hug, and spend time with you so you don’t have to be alone. Truth is, as a single woman I had 99 problems but as a married woman I have 99 different problems.  There are two of us now…and we are both imperfect humans. I used to get so irritated at Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:1 when he says it is good for man not to marry.  Now I understand what he is saying.  Marriage is good and holy, but it does bring huge distractions.  The enemy has been most successful in getting me spiritually off track since getting married.  It is so easy to be hyper-focused on my husband and his happiness instead of on the Lord.  Also, those 99 single lady problems that I thought would be solved, there have been times in my marriage where I have never felt more alone.  Marriage was supposed to solve my loneliness.  I also had so many insecurities as a single woman.  I expected that when I got married those would all go away.  After all, this man chose me.  He must love me and think I’m the most beautiful woman on the planet!  I was so wrong I’ve never been so insecure in my life.  It is not because of my husband.  These insecurities are my own.  I thought marriage would cure them but my husband is not the cure that I need.  It’s Jesus.  If you are looking for a husband to solve your problems, chances are you aren’t focused on the Lord.  He is truly sufficient to meet your needs and your desires.  A husband is not God’s design to do that for you; he could never be your Savior.  That is too much pressure and your marriage will suffer if you look to your husband to save you from your problems.

There is much I have learned that I wish I knew as a single woman.  I wasted so much of the Lord’s time!  Who knows what He would have had for me if I directed all that longing to Him!  What an adventure we would have had.  I’ll never get that time back, but you still have it.  You are not a lady in waiting.  You have purpose right now that can only be accomplished during this season in your life.  Embrace it; embrace Him!  Ladies, delight in Him and then HE will be the desire of your heart; just as it should be.

Soli Deo Gloria

(Only for His glory)

Abbey



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How to Get In Position

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How to Get In Position

A few days ago in my quiet time, I felt the Lord nudge me to the book of Ruth. Particularly, chapter three. In this brief chapter, Naomi tells Ruth to go to Boaz and lay at His feet. This seems…bold? presumptuous? aggressive? A lot of things if you ask me but in doing so, Boaz became of his role as possible redeemer for Ruth and eventually the were able to get married and everything changed for Ruth.

Great story, right? But as I was reading all I kept hearing the Lord say was “Get in position". I prayed and asked the Lord..HOW?! What does that mean? Get in position for WHAT exactly? And as I prayed and wrestled with this idea of getting in position the Lord revealed three ways how we can do that.

  1. Prepare

    1. Anything worth having is worth working for. And many times that means practical work and other times that means personal work. Sometimes that means both. Many of us are praying for things we are not actually ready to handle. Preparation can look like going back to school, going to counseling, or ditching some unhealthy habits. God releases things to us when we are ready. And we get ready when we are PREPARED. Now, don’t think you have to get all legalistic on me and start checking boxes. I don’t mean that. But I do mean submit yourselves to God and ask Him what you can do in this season to prepare for what He has for you…and then DO IT. (1 Samuel 15:22)

  2. Do more than what is asked of you

    1. I visited a church with my firmed recently and he said almost verbatim “you get in position by doing more than what is asked for”. I almost fell out of my chair. God is looking for those of us who will WORK HARDER. In a culture that is dead set on getting more for less, Christians should be the one pushing to do MORE. And again, not in a striving type way. But a do more in your lane type of way. Are we really working as unto the Lord in EVERYTHING we do or just the things we like? Are we operating with a spirit of excellence or mediocrity? Are we forgiving faster? Loving harder? Encouraging more? Or are we…settling? Tough one to wrestle with, I know. (p.s. the pastor based his message off the story of Rebecca at the well. Genesis 24 Read it for yourself!)

  3. Submit

    1. I have absolutely been in seasons where I was asking God for something with one foot surrendered and the other one dancing in the world. God loves us so much. So much so that He will not give us anything out of season. And sometimes we are out of season is because our hearts are not truly aligned. We have to be fully and wholly submitted to God. The bible says we have not because we ask not. And when we ask we ask with the wrong motives. (James 4:2) OUCH. It is really hard to have the right motives when I am trying to serve God and do my own thing on the side. Full surrender is the place where everything overflows. It isn’t easy, but boy is it worth it.

I am so determined to get into position for whatever God has for me. Our girl Ruth got her man, a business, wealth, and much more all because she said YES to God, worked her butt off, and was fully submitted and obedient to the Lord.

Which one do you feel led to pray about! Comment and let me know!

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3 Reasons to Manage Your Money

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3 Reasons to Manage Your Money

Money. Whew chile, other than race and maybe sexual orientation, money is something a lot of christians DO NOT want to talk about. It can be so awkward. People have varying beliefs on what to give and when to give and who to give to. I have heard people say you shouldn’t be wealthy because money is even and I have also heard people just say it shouldn’t be talked about PERIOD.


But the things…God talked about money. So we should to. I encourage you to study the word to get God’s perspective on money in its entirety. But for today I want to highlight three reasons why Christians need to be aware of their financial situation and be equipped to manage it.


The bible, specifically proverbs is FULL of nuggets regarding the stewardship of money, work ethic, and wisdom around money. It is important for us to know what we have and what to do with it from a Biblical perspective. Why you ask? I will tell you.


  1. What we don’t rule, usually rules us. We are in charge of our money. It is our job not to let the fear of or the love of money control what we do with it. The Lord told us let nothing master us. We cannot live in fear, ignorance, or obsession and still consider ourselves mastering money. We serve one master and that is God. (1 Timothy 6:10)

  2. We can’t give what we don’t know we have. Giving is a tough one to tackle. But the fact of the matter is we are called to radical generosity. Many of the issues we feel most passionately about need not just our time but our financial resources. Often times we don’t even know how much we COULD give because we have no idea where our money is GOING.  We are called to take care of the widow and the orphans. How can we do that if we dont even realize we spent $200 bucks on ubers in June??  We often look at these world issues and say where is God? and I have a nagging feeling God is saying where are YOU. Maybe, just maybe, we didn’t get a bonus just to add another garage to the house or splurge on a handbag. I am not trying to shame any of us for our purchases because I am right there with ya. But what if, we are ALSO being given so we can GIVE? (Leviticus 25:35-37, Psalm 41:1-3, Proverbs 11:23-24)

  3. We can’t multiply what we don’t understand. I am a words girl through and through. Numbers makes me want to tear up a little. But how do I become a lender and not a borrower, build wealth to fund Kingdom agendas, and live in financial peace if I dont understand money? We cannot shy away from conversations because we don’t understand. We also cannot pretend that this world doesnt run on a currency.  God has gifted people to love numbers and understand how to manage money. We must engage with them and let them teach us so that we can live in PEACE and be fruitful. A Christians, we need this wisdom from God so that we can flourish financial not just for ourselves but for the Kingdom of God. (Proverbs 22:7, Proverbs 4:7, Luke 14:28)

I am no expert on this but learning how to manage my money has actually given me so much PEACE and allowed me to be a better giver, friend, and overall woman.


I recommend reading Overcoming Underearning, Financial Peace, and even Boundaries. You can find all my book recommendations here on AMAZON.


Comment and let me know what youre thinking about money management!

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