3 Reasons to Manage Your Money


3 Reasons to Manage Your Money

Money. Whew chile, other than race and maybe sexual orientation, money is something a lot of christians DO NOT want to talk about. It can be so awkward. People have varying beliefs on what to give and when to give and who to give to. I have heard people say you shouldn’t be wealthy because money is even and I have also heard people just say it shouldn’t be talked about PERIOD.

But the things…God talked about money. So we should to. I encourage you to study the word to get God’s perspective on money in its entirety. But for today I want to highlight three reasons why Christians need to be aware of their financial situation and be equipped to manage it.

The bible, specifically proverbs is FULL of nuggets regarding the stewardship of money, work ethic, and wisdom around money. It is important for us to know what we have and what to do with it from a Biblical perspective. Why you ask? I will tell you.

  1. What we don’t rule, usually rules us. We are in charge of our money. It is our job not to let the fear of or the love of money control what we do with it. The Lord told us let nothing master us. We cannot live in fear, ignorance, or obsession and still consider ourselves mastering money. We serve one master and that is God. (1 Timothy 6:10)

  2. We can’t give what we don’t know we have. Giving is a tough one to tackle. But the fact of the matter is we are called to radical generosity. Many of the issues we feel most passionately about need not just our time but our financial resources. Often times we don’t even know how much we COULD give because we have no idea where our money is GOING.  We are called to take care of the widow and the orphans. How can we do that if we dont even realize we spent $200 bucks on ubers in June??  We often look at these world issues and say where is God? and I have a nagging feeling God is saying where are YOU. Maybe, just maybe, we didn’t get a bonus just to add another garage to the house or splurge on a handbag. I am not trying to shame any of us for our purchases because I am right there with ya. But what if, we are ALSO being given so we can GIVE? (Leviticus 25:35-37, Psalm 41:1-3, Proverbs 11:23-24)

  3. We can’t multiply what we don’t understand. I am a words girl through and through. Numbers makes me want to tear up a little. But how do I become a lender and not a borrower, build wealth to fund Kingdom agendas, and live in financial peace if I dont understand money? We cannot shy away from conversations because we don’t understand. We also cannot pretend that this world doesnt run on a currency.  God has gifted people to love numbers and understand how to manage money. We must engage with them and let them teach us so that we can live in PEACE and be fruitful. A Christians, we need this wisdom from God so that we can flourish financial not just for ourselves but for the Kingdom of God. (Proverbs 22:7, Proverbs 4:7, Luke 14:28)

I am no expert on this but learning how to manage my money has actually given me so much PEACE and allowed me to be a better giver, friend, and overall woman.

I recommend reading Overcoming Underearning, Financial Peace, and even Boundaries. You can find all my book recommendations here on AMAZON.

Comment and let me know what youre thinking about money management!


4 Books to Read About Identity


4 Books to Read About Identity



Who are we? What are we meant to do? What is our purpose? Why are we the way we are?

I think if you have been alive for more than 10 years you have had these thoughts. I know I have. I have read a few books that have really helped me discover who God created me to be and dig deeper into my personal healing, growth, and glow up! 


Wild and Free - Jess Connolly & Hayley Morgan

This whimsical read pushed me to confront the narratives I had been believing about myself. That I, as a person, was just entirely too much to handle. I had to wrestle with the fact that not everything said about me was TRUE and I got to discern what of God and what was sent to me. I recommend this if you have ever felt like you just don't quite...fit. 


She's Still There - Chrystal Evans Hurst

I had no idea that the daughter of Tony Evans had been through such a hard time. She is so authentic about where she fell and how she got up. It is so inspiring especially coming from the daughter of a well known pastor. Also- she writes like she is having coffee with you at starbucks. Great read. BONUS: She is an african- american author. If you are looking to up the diversity in your reads, she is a great place to start. 

The Me I Want to Be - John Ortberg

I think we have all at some point felt like who we wanted to be and who we were were not quite in alignment. It can be so hard to get from who we are to where we want to go. It can feel impossible at times. John really deep dives into GROWTH and how and what to do to actually shift your life. Loved this bible based read. 

Twenty Two- Letters to a young woman searching for a young woman searching for meaning - Allison Trowbridge

I was originally gifted this read to review by a PR company and I was nervous because it is meant for a 22 year old. ( I was 22 6 years ago). But oh my gosh it ended up being just what I needed. Allison is a phenomenal story teller who somehow gently forces you to look at what you think you want and what you REALLy want. She opens up a beautiful dialogue around the "shoulds" we accept and lies we believe. SO good. 


What good books have you read about identity? Let me know in the comments.


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3 Reasons to Pray for Your Enemies


3 Reasons to Pray for Your Enemies

You know who is always last on my list to pray for? People I don't like...or rather people that don't like me. It is so hard to include them on the list especially when there are so many things to pray for. Like people I do like and things I want and more. But the truth is that praying for your enemies is something the bible specifically tells us to do. And You may be wondering why? I have three reasons why you should start to incorporate this type of prayer in your quiet time!

But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. - Matthew 5:44-45

1. Stop Bitterness

Ever found yourself thinking really terrible thoughts about someone? Months after whatever transpired between you two...you are still angry and bitter and upset about what happened. Now friend, you probably have a right to be upset. But that is not the point. At some point we have to LET IT GO. Because holding on to bitterness is really only hurting us- not them. And the fastest way to move past your anger? Pray for them. 

It is so hard to be angry with someone you are praying for. If you commit to blessing someone who has persecuted you, you will find your heart so soft and tender. Bitterness will be removed from you. That is the power of prayer. 

Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. -Ephesians 4:31

Challenge: Pray the same blessings over your enemy as you would for your best friend. 


2. Self- Defense

I started to think about the people I have had the most conflict with and the seasons that occurred. Usually one or both of us is hurting or broken. I heard a minister once teach about how the enemy was able to use Judas to betray Jesus the devil works through weak and wounded people. She explained that the spirit entered Judas (luke 22:3) and in order for anything to enter us (good or bad) we have to be open to it. Being hurt or broken opens us up to be either be healed and used by God or be a pawn of the enemy...it ultimately depends on the person.  

When we pray healing over our enemies, we partner with God to help heal broken people. And when people are healed, they are less likely to be used by the enemy. 

Essentially, healing prayers over your enemies is a sneaky form of SELF DEFENSE. It is a spiritual warfare strategy that disarms your enemy with LOVE and compassion. 

Challenge:  Next time you have a conflict with someone, try to see them as a broken person who needs healing rather than someone who just made you mad! 


3. For Their Sake

We all need more prayer. We all need more grace. We all need more compassion. At some point or another we have all been the villain. And we have all been the victim. Not one of us is perfect. We cannot always see ourselves clearly and additional people praying is never a bad idea. 

So pray for them like you would've wanted someone to pray for you when you were at your worst. We would all be amazed at how compassion can disarm even the most angry. So friend PRAY for that person who has harmed you. Pray because they need it. Pray because everyone deserves to be lifted up to the Fathers ears. Pray because they deserve a chance to walk away from their behavior and get a fresh start just like YOU did. Pray because Jesus did the same exact thing for us and we not for a moment deserved it.


Challenge: Next time you find yourself judging someone who has hurt you, ask God to show you who they are in His eyes. 


I would love to hear your thoughts on this! Comment below and let me know what you think.


If you are looking for additional resources to amp up your prayer life I have TWO:

Bolder - Devotional

Val Marie Paper Prayer Journals


3 J's of Friendship

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3 J's of Friendship

I have been a good friend and a bad friend. I have been an enemy and a maid of honor. I know a little thing or two about what it actually takes to be a good friend and what will tank a friendship. I noticed that there are three people in the bible we can learn alot about friendship from and it just so happens that their names start with J! 


1. Judas

oh Judas. The one that gave that fatal kiss on the cheek that led to Jesus' death on the cross! The one who had walked with Jesus for the past three years and witnessed all of His miracles and yet-- still betrayed Him. I heard a bible teacher once say that the devil works through weak and wounded people. Any person that would betray a friend like Jesus is weak and wounded. Judas teaches us that we have to be healthy and whole so that we do not end up competing, comparing and ultimately BETRAYING the friend that we love. He teaches us that our own health is an important key to healthy friendships. You have to be a confident, individual who is comfortable in their own skin! It is so important!! (Mathew 26:14-27).

2. Jesus

King Jesus is the perfect of example how to set healthy boundaries. Jesus was comfortable taking  space from His friends. He was comfortable rebuking them when they overstepped. He did not allow anyone to hold him back, slow him down, infringe on His time or get in the way of His purpose: even those closest to him.  He was honest about what He wanted and expected from them and communicated that all throughout scripture. Boundaries (unlike walls) are healthy and vital to a solid friendship. A relationship without boundaries is no relationship at all. Be like Jesus and set some boundaries. (Matthew 16:23; Luke 5:16; John 7:6)

3. Jonathon

Jonathon was in the blood line to become king but God ended up appointing David. Jonathon could've been jealous bitter, insecure and even vengeful regarding the fact that David had what was rightfully His. But instead he became a loyal and devoted friend. Scripture tell us their souls were knit together and they were like brothers. Jonathon rooted for David even though He was running in the late HE wanted. He was cheering for him when He should've been competition. He loved him when most wouldn't have blamed Him for hating him. He was the friend we all wanted. (1 Samuel 18:1)

Friendships are so important. As someone who did not always value them, I can admit that I am much happier now that I have healthy friendships. When I am at my best, with healthy boundaries and remove the comparison-- my relationships flourish. It is hard work and takes a lot of self awareness but it is worth it every time.


What are your friendship tips? Comment below and let me know! 


with love,



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What My Natural Hair  Taught Me About God

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What My Natural Hair Taught Me About God

I got my last relaxer the week I graduated from college in 2012. I was ready to try something new but I didnt really know what I was getting into when I began my transition to my natural hair. But I was ready to explore the hair I had not seen since I was a child due to chemical straighteners. But as it turns out, I did not have as much time was I wanted to play with my new curly hair and resorted to regular blow outs. I have had the pleasure watching my hair grow and thicken and flourish without harsh chemicals. But as another graduation neared, I decided to skip my blow out and opt for a curly look...just for a little while.


So for the first time in almost three years…I did my own hair. I am not going to lie, feeling my own curls was more exhilarating than I expected. This hair of mine was thick and kinky and these coils were so gorgeous. I followed the instructions on my new natural hair products and was feeling pretty good with what the naturalistas call a 'wash and go'. Hair was detangled, moisturized and curls were gelled. I felt great. 


I went to sleep that night and woke up the next morning with an entire head of matted hair....This was not part of the plan you see. I instantly panicked and believed that maybe I had gotten in over my head. I didnt know what to do with all these curls that now looked like a tangled web of...webs. I wanted myself straight hair back that was easy to manage. Not this birds nest situation!!


I was close to tears..scrambling for my phone to book an appointment at my local drybar when I felt the holy spirit tell me to calm down.


umm Holy spirit? Talking to me about my hair?! And He so gently reminded me that this is often what it feels like when we start anything new. Even our walks with Jesus. At first, we feel so good. SO excited. Everything is so fresh, and nice and feels just right. But then after some time, things get messy, tangled, difficult and thats usually when we give up. 


We give up at the first sign of trouble. At the first prayer we think went unanswered. We quit when things are not as neat and pretty as we thought they would be. But sometimes things just take some getting used to. We have to WORK with what we are given. So I stood in the mirror, looking at this hair God gave me and I started to play around with it. I made a headband out of black panty hose and fluffed out my matted fro. I did a little tugging and pulling and eventually, I had a hair style I was willing to leave the house with.

It just took a little patience. It took a little work. It took some time to get used to this new me.


Whenever we are learning something new, particularly with our faith, we cannot give up when things get hard or don’t go as planned. All is never lost with Jesus. We have to keep pressing in, praying, trying and pursuing. We can’t be Christians who quit-- We have a race to run.


So I wore my hair straight for graduation but I think this summer I will play around with these curls again and explore this hair texture God thought was perfect for me. I will probably tear up again and get frustrated when it insists on doing things it's own way. I will even be tempted to give up when challenges arise. But I am going to try.  

I challenge you to try something new this summer & let God teach you something in the process. 


with love,





natural hair the faith feast

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